Personal Development. There is so much to say about it. I never knew exactly what personal development was up until 2013, when it was introduced to me when I became a Team Beachbody Coach. 4 words - It changed my life.
I cannot NOT share with others, what has helped me get through so many of my own issues in life, and really come out of the other side of things.
12/15/2015: Current Read: I Am That Girl by Alexis Jones
I think it's safe to say that the majority of mainly women feel that it's a necessity in life to make everyone ELSE a priority. Like it's some kind of atrocity to make any time for ourselves and put ourselves FIRST. Well...I've learned over the past 6 years or so, how important putting MYSELF first truly is, and how UNSELFISH it actually is! I don't want to say I ended up the way I did (suicidal, alcoholic, addictions, depressed, anxious and insecure) because I put others first, because as Moms it's almost a given. But there is a difference in perception here.
We cannot be who we are mean't to be, unapologetically, lovingly, and happily and healthily if we do not, in fact, make us our number 1 priority. This is because, the well runs dry eventually. Resentments happen, we can lose ourselves completely, or in my case....never get a chance to find out who I am, or was mean't to be and do in this life. We then become lonely, we eventually turn to others for our happiness because well, making others happy is what defines us as people. We don't learn to make OURSELVES happy and become dependent on others for it, and end up disappointed, sad and often times depressed.
This book is a great eye opener for those of us who can relate to "people pleasing".
Some of my favorite parts so far or that stood out for me:
1. "We all have moments we trip and fall. We all have moments when we give more than we get. We all grieve and ache and lose. But there are a couple of lessons I always come back to, based on my unshakable belief in love and compassion, that help me to regain focus and follow my muse.
First, never forget how utterly unoriginal your suffering is.
Sounds kind of harsh right....but in all honesty, somewhere, someone has already won this battle.
This allows me to stay unique and true to my passion and purpose.
Second, always find a silver lining."
2.We have to teach people how to treat us, negotiate and re-negotiate our boundaries, especially with the ones we love."
3. PERSONAL happiness makes you a better partner.
4. Trying to change someone or even yourself to fit their idea of perfect is the biggest recipe for unhappiness in a relationship.
GUILTY, GUILTY, GUILTY! I've spent most of my life trying to conform myself to fit the mold of what I thought or felt my partner wanted. I still struggle with this on a daily basis. I never learned confidence. I never learned independence, or how to love myself, or how important I am, or that I actually deserve to be respected and loved. The relationships I was in, we not good for me. I was young, inexperienced, and had no direction or guidance from anyone. Therefore, I unfortunately had to learn the hard way when it came to relationships and loving myself.
Not an experience I wish on anyone!
So far....last but not least this quote:
" Power can be taken, but not given. The process of the taking is empowerment in itself."
- Gloria Steinem
Stay tuned...
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